10 Months already!
Judgments
It's taking me this long to understand why so many things aren't shared among mothers. When I became pregnant things happened to me that no one ever talked to me about, things mothers never shared. At first I thought it was because the experience of pregnancy and motherhood can be so overwhelming, it is easier for them to simply reply to inquiries with general answers about their well being like "I'm good" or "i'm tired", instead of getting into the gruesome details that most likely most people really don't want to know. And now, ten months into motherhood, I'm realizing that the major reason behind this curtain of secrecy (ok, maybe i'm being a little dramatic) is fear of judgement. This fear is compounded by the inevitable insecurity due to the inexperience of being a new mother coupled with the need to maintain a lifestyle that requires professionally and physically your all. Although we have been very thoughtful and purposeful in the choices we have made thus far, there's still those judgmental voices that undoubtedly (as if our decisions were made haphazardly) make their presence known whenever I decide to share a tidbit relating to Alexandra. I'm not going to try to psychoanalyze or reason behind this incredibly destructive way of being, after all I have been known to be judgmental toward different population types in general. But what I can say is that this realization offers me an awareness of mind that eases my choices and our decisions as parents. My judgmental ways have also minimized except when judging requires an opinionated and/or discriminating mind to make an informed decision.
Birthday Party
Although Alexandra is only 10 months, preparations for her 1st Birthday Party are well underway. I don't want to give too much away but after much deliberation we opted for an adult only party in the later part of the day. She will absolutely love to be the center of attention among all our friends.
Walking
Over a month ago Alexandra began letting go of furniture she used as walking aids to allow herself to balance on her own. Finally, during her ninth month she took her first steps around the house. The sound effects are coming from her mouth.
Enjoy.
It's taking me this long to understand why so many things aren't shared among mothers. When I became pregnant things happened to me that no one ever talked to me about, things mothers never shared. At first I thought it was because the experience of pregnancy and motherhood can be so overwhelming, it is easier for them to simply reply to inquiries with general answers about their well being like "I'm good" or "i'm tired", instead of getting into the gruesome details that most likely most people really don't want to know. And now, ten months into motherhood, I'm realizing that the major reason behind this curtain of secrecy (ok, maybe i'm being a little dramatic) is fear of judgement. This fear is compounded by the inevitable insecurity due to the inexperience of being a new mother coupled with the need to maintain a lifestyle that requires professionally and physically your all. Although we have been very thoughtful and purposeful in the choices we have made thus far, there's still those judgmental voices that undoubtedly (as if our decisions were made haphazardly) make their presence known whenever I decide to share a tidbit relating to Alexandra. I'm not going to try to psychoanalyze or reason behind this incredibly destructive way of being, after all I have been known to be judgmental toward different population types in general. But what I can say is that this realization offers me an awareness of mind that eases my choices and our decisions as parents. My judgmental ways have also minimized except when judging requires an opinionated and/or discriminating mind to make an informed decision.
Birthday Party
Although Alexandra is only 10 months, preparations for her 1st Birthday Party are well underway. I don't want to give too much away but after much deliberation we opted for an adult only party in the later part of the day. She will absolutely love to be the center of attention among all our friends.
Walking
Over a month ago Alexandra began letting go of furniture she used as walking aids to allow herself to balance on her own. Finally, during her ninth month she took her first steps around the house. The sound effects are coming from her mouth.
Enjoy.
4 Comments:
She is amazing!!! So cute, happy and tough too!
I am lucky to have Daniel's cousin who has a baby and loves to share all she knows and has learned about pregnancy and babies! At the beginning it can be a little bit overwhelming but it has become very enriching!
As we have decided to not put earrings in our little girl and not baptize her, these two things have become very delicate fields to talk about with our parents... We will see if we can resist family traditions and mind games LOL :)
Love reading you!! Keep posting!
Plenty of love from PT!!!
I love it!!! She looks so calm and peaceful!!! :)
She's trying to get into the purse for some cha ching and at the same time sashaying across the floor in her lovely summer dress. A couple of falls just like the professional models. Look ma, she's already learning how to multitask.
love it! she is the cutest (and oh so advanced).
love,
gwen
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